Why To Compare Yourself To Others?
It’s very easy to compare ourselves to others in order to gauge our own lives. I often find myself looking at how other individuals juggle their careers, family commitments, and passions. Then I get nervous that I’m doing something wrong. It’s times like these that I have to force myself to stop the comparisons, for several good reasons. If you often find yourself lacking , you are setting yourself up for a failure. Constantly judging your achievements against successful superstars often leads to low self-esteem. In life, there is always going to be someone subjectively “doing better” than you, and if you judge yourself by those standards, you’re never going to feel good about yourself. This can lead into a downward spiral of giving up on goals because you feel you can never measure up.
If you usually feel superior to others, you’re ignoring areas that you could improve on.
You might think that comparing yourself to people who are “beneath you” will help you achieve goals. While it may help your self-esteem, people who belittle others often become too egotistical. I’ve seen this played out again and again with start-up video game companies. Whenever faced with genuine criticism of their games – whether that be from customers or developer peers – they lash out that people just “don’t understand the vision” of their game. In the same breath, they don’t understand why their game doesn’t sell. In order to improve in a skill, you have to be able to take critical feedback and turn it into something you can use to improve yourself. This gets lost if you think you’re better than everyone else.
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We all know that competition creates immense stress. Anything that creates stress is in conflict with our basic nature of love, peace and happiness. To justify our focus on competition, however, we have coined the term ‘healthy competition.’What we imply through this is an act where we don’t intend to harm our competitor, but use their performance to motivate ourselves to perform better. Yet harm it inevitably causes, to ourselves, and in multiple ways.
Comparisons don’t take into account our differences.Ultimately, comparisons generally don’t take into account the many differences individuals may encounter. First, the successfu” person is often portrayed as an overnight sensation when, in fact, this almost never happens. Successful people work hard, and their setbacks are rarely celebrated. This makes the successful person appear lucky when they are not. Second, there are no true one-to-one comparisons. People will encounter different obstacles on their path to success, and you can’t truly judge your own worth by looking at someone leading a completely different life than your own.
For example in semesters one of your friend get better marks than you, then it may develop envious nature in you...then thought like , I also did the same thing as hers then why didn't I deserve the same marks like that came in your mind. It makes you feel jealous , angry and you might stop our interaction with that particular person who scored well in class. But we didn't able to recognise our fault may be there is something lacking for which I got less marks, and due to this one ruined the moment of happiness with one's own marks.
There will always be somebody ahead of us, someone with a better job, nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier family, a host of more handsome relatives, better behaved children or siblings, better circumstances and better conditions, etc. But, one important realisation is that we can be the best that we can be, when we are not competing with anyone.The only real measurement of success is yours.Ultimately, success isn’t about someone else’s life. It’s about your life and your outlook about it.
Infinite numbers of parents compare their own kids with others, in their daily life. They compare their kids with their neighbour’s kids, relative’s kids or even their own elder or younger ones. Every kid is extra ordinary in his own way. That creation is unique, incomparable. One kid might be good at studies, the other would excel in sports or arts or any other field. But parents end up comparing kids on the scores they bring from their schools. Uncountable parents have enforced their wishes, their fancies on their kids and messed up the child’s growth, potential or even their life. So, parent’s should trust on the capabilities of their children and let them spread their wings without comparing them to others.
Every soul is unique with its own learning capacity and the path to follow to reach its source. We are just the medium by which a soul can self realize itself to connect with the almighty, still we consider ourselves higher and more powerful than them living in the illusion thinking it as the only reality.
Happy healing people🌻
